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Would you discipline your child for this?

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Last Post Sep 23, 2008 5:27 PM by: ktbear
ktbear
 
ktbear
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Registered: 9/23/08

Re: Would you discipline your child for this?

Sep 23, 2008 5:27 PM
If your child just turned 2 then I would consider the possibility that he is not quite fully ready and that might be the reason that he is going in the other room. I would strongly suggest that you do not discipline him for doing so but rather talk to him and try to understand why he is doing it. Maybe he has a reason that is logical to him that you do not know about, then you can fix the problem. If the potty is associated with punishment then he will be less inclined to get on board with it. I would also grab him and put some pull ups on him as soon as he shouts done since you know what is coming!! I say talk to your son and find out why, then you both win and he knows you care about what he is feeling.
CorysMom
 
CorysMom
Posts: 10
From: Little Rock
Registered: 9/1/08

Re: Would you discipline your child for this?

Sep 1, 2008 7:51 PM
The m&m's thing look like it would be a easy thing to do. Well try that with our boy. He will be 2 on Sept 3rd. He is doing good w/peeing in the potty and he has pooped once in the potty and trust me we praised him for that.
sharlyn
 
sharlyn
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Registered: 7/24/08

Re: Would you discipline your child for this?

Aug 2, 2008 10:09 PM
It depends on what you mean by "discipline."
I would definately discipline the child, you have to or there is no teaching. But teaching is the very definition of discipline. Many people do not understand that. Many people look at the word discipline and immidiately think of physical punishment. But you should never yell, spank, hit, or punish them in a way that will be counter productive. Lets keep the discipline positive and you will begin to see the child actually looks forward to the "discipline." Potty training will go alot faster and will be a stage you actually cant wait to go through with your child.
See, the problem with spanking a child for not peeing in the toilet is it shows them what not to do, but does nothing to show them what to do the next time.
In our house, we use the positive discipline techniques with the children and they are typically trained in a few days. This is the four steps we use:
Accidents -
1. Verbal Disapproval - 'No! you wet your pants/ the floor/ whatever the circumstances may be, YOur pants are wet! Big boys do NOT like wet pants, Wet pants are yucky this should only last one - two seconds and never metioned again.
2. 10 Practice Trials: Practice going potty the proper way, whatever you determine that is, YOU not the child.... You should hold the child's hand and walk with him quickly to the potty. Have HIM not you..... lower his pants and sit, but not require him to pee because he has probley already gone somewhere else and no longer has the need to go any further at this time. and tell him You wet your pants, you need to practice going potty. You need to practice going quickly. You should do this from the same spot where the accident occurred for about three of the practice trials. The rest of the Practice Trials should be from various places in the house.
3. Do 10 Dry Pants Inspections, by having the child feeling the proper spot and tell you if its wet or dry. If they are dry they get ONE m&m. NOt 2, NOT 5, ONE. They WILL work for it if you stick to your guns.... YOu should do this every 5 minutes.
4. When the 10th dry pants inspection is complete have THEM put their wet pants in the proper place, THEM get clean ones, THEM put on their own clean ones, and THEM clean up any other messes they made. They will begin to realize its much faster to just go potty in the toilet the proper way. If your diligent not letting even one go by uncorrected, you will only need to do this for about 2 days mabey even less.
Let me know if this works for you.
sharlyn
marvelman
 
marvelman
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Registered: 8/1/08

Re: Would you discipline your child for this?

Aug 1, 2008 11:20 PM
you shoud disapline

me and my wife have 2 kids that do that and when they do that we tell then no and give them a spanking on thier behind
scince we have stared the spanking they have done it less
Kyra's Momma!
 
Kyra's Momma!
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Registered: 7/18/08

Re: Would you discipline your child for this?

Jul 18, 2008 9:11 PM
My daughter likes to go on the floor also (seeming how she won't keep a diaper on). I show her what she did and tell her not to potty on the floor that's yucky and tell her to potty on the potty chair like a big girl. This seems to be working b/c she peed on the floor today and I pointed to the mess and she said EWWE! I hope this helps! Good Luck!
nickaliciaalanlily
 
nickaliciaalanlily
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Registered: 7/14/08

Re: Would you discipline your child for this?

Jul 14, 2008 5:20 AM
Tell him that if he goes in any other room he has to clean it up and put it in the potty. That was the most effective mothod for us.
Merriett
 
Merriett
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Registered: 7/7/08

Would you discipline your child for this?

Jul 12, 2008 7:12 PM
I recently posted on July 11th called "He won't pee IN the potty". Basically, my son just turned 2 a few weeks ago. For the past 6 months he's been telling me after he goes potty (on the floor). He has never gone in the potty.

Lately, he has been telling me he has to go potty and then just sits on the toilet (or potty seat, whichever he chooses) for a while and then he says all done... runs in the other room and goes on the floor. I have noticed that he never pees on the floor when I am around but instead goes into another room.

My mom told me that when he does that I should discipline him for it because he knows he needs to go but chooses to go on the floor instead. It makes sense to me, since he isn't getting disciplined for it he doesn't realize that it is wrong. BUT, I have also been taught not to discipline a child when it comes to potty training. What are your thoughts????