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Desperate needed help, many issues to many to count

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Last Post Nov 6, 2009 5:16 AM by: MomOfAlice
MomOfAlice
 
MomOfAlice
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Re: Desperate needed help, many issues to many to count

Nov 6, 2009 5:16 AM
Have you considered abandoning the separate potty chair and instead getting a seat that fits on top of a toilet? This might create enough distance between your daughter and her "work" that it won't be so gross and scary to her. Then, too, she is going potty just like Mommy.

I'm beginning to consider this for our daughter.
QueenJyl
 
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Re: Desperate needed help, many issues to many to count

Sep 19, 2009 1:09 AM
FIrst of all, don't beat yourself up. I have two daughters (16 and almost 3) and my husband stayed at home with my eldest. My eldest didn't potty train until she was 3. So, at 30 months, it is a bit early. You need to help her overcome her fear and you may need to talk about it and how it made her feel. From your posting, it terrified her. You need to show her that it is ok to poop and that you do it too. Children need to learn by example. Just relax and it will happen, truly it will. Also, there are daycares that accept training children. Regarding your husband, remember that being laid off is hard enough and being the main caregiver for your child is a new challenge. Men relate to men by what they do, and when a man stays home (whether it is by economics or choice) it is still hard to adjust to. Watch the movie with Michael Keaton about it, Mr. Mom. There are just things that will never be done the way that you would like them done but remember that your husband is doing the best he can and he needs to hear you encourage him before you criticize him. I speak from experience. My eldest daughter had a great relationship with her Dad and I am so glad. Most girls don't have that kind of opportunity, so allow him some grace and don't sweat the small stuff. Your marriage surviving these challenges is more important than if the house is spotless or your child eats in front of the TV. Sorry about the book, but if I can help you avoid what I went through, it is worth it. :) Hope it helps!
Liza B
 
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Desperate needed help, many issues to many to count

Jul 22, 2009 10:27 AM
I have 28 months old daughter and a first time Mommy. My husband and have been trying to get our daughter to go potty and in her potty chair. First, like others saying let your child run around without pull ups on and I did with constant reminding her to tell us if she needs to go. It works on the very first day..she actually went by herself for # 2 without telling us, sat down on the potty chair..... problem is......as soon she sees her # 2 in potty chair she started to cry and puke all over the places.Not a pretty scene. I have told her it is okay not to be afraid that big kid does it and so is Mommy. Ha ! And that was the first and the last that she goes.... Every hours we will ask her to go and she will,,,,but nothing she just sat there and pretend she is going,making hard face that she is going but nothing..But as soon as she put her pull ups on within 10 mins she'll go.
I can't make her go now after that incident. She thinks it's yukkie to go in the potty chair although I'd show her when I go and was okay,,,just say go bye-bye and flush...but I have no luck ..been trying for 2 mos now and still trying to make her go again :(..Please help ,what was I doing wrong?
I have a full time job and husband is laid from work and he watched our daughter. I have write down what to do and said he did but Im not quiete sure if he really teaching our daughter.From eating on the table NOT in front of TV Im kind of frustrated right now, I want my daughter to enroll in pre-school by next year and to learn to sit while eating,we can even eat out in a restaurant she'll run around and husband seem like aint helping me.:(

Any advice I can get from you is truly Appreciated