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3 1/2 year old daughter has no interest

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Last Post Sep 23, 2008 5:37 PM by: ktbear
 
ktbear
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Registered: 9/23/08

Re: 3 1/2 year old daughter has no interest

Sep 23, 2008 5:37 PM
I am so sorry, I am in the same situation! I even offered my son a train trip (he is obsessed with trains) and it worked for 2 go rounds. Then there is a monster in the potty and he will not go near it. He too says he wants diapers and I am at a loss. It was suggested to me to make the sticker chart separate from the "chore" chart so that they don't think that they can just get the reward by doing other things. Also I let my son run around all day without a diaper (at home with all the blinds shut) and he went on the potty every time. That also only stuck for a few days but maybe it would work for you. I hope it goes better before she has to go to school. Good luck!!
 
MommyX2
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Registered: 7/3/08

Re: 3 1/2 year old daughter has no interest

Jul 3, 2008 1:35 PM
My daughter is 4 years old and autistic. We are on day 8 of her potty training. I found with her that I had to use just underwear and take her into the bathroom every hour.

At the end of the first day she decided to have a meltdown at the potty. She refused to sit on the potty, proceeded to hit me and said diaper. Well, after cleaning up 14 messes off of the floor during the day I lost it. Yes...I yelled a my daughter...I'm such and awful mother. ]:) I told her she was a big girl and that big girls wear underwear....NO MORE DIAPERS!!! I then told her to sit down on the potty and go pee. The look on her face was priceless. She sat down on the potty with a serious look and within 3 seconds was peeing. She then gave me a big smile and said mommy I pee pee...high five. We did the high five I told her I was proud of my big girl and then said no more pee in the underwear. She looked right at me and said okay mommy.

Three days later she started telling us when she had to go....YEAH!!! Yes we still have the occasional pee spot in the underwear but it I'll take it. It sure beats cleaning it up off of the floor.

I should also tell you I tried stickers and small toys...she really didn't care about them. She was more happy with the high fives and my husband and I just telling her how proud we are of her for using the potty.

I guess what I'm trying to say is you're the parent. She's testing you at this point. Tell her she's using the potty.

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Edited by MommyX2 at 07/03/2008 1:37 PM PDT
 
Training Two
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Registered: 7/3/08

Re: 3 1/2 year old daughter has no interest

Jul 3, 2008 7:19 AM
I understand the frustration. I am currently training 2 kids at the same time. My son is almost 5 with high functioning autism and my daughter is 2 1/2. We tried a number of times with him, but never really got anywhere and hadn't really tried with her yet. A couple of weeks ago our daycare was on vacation so we were home with the kids for 9 days. We started Potty Training Boot Camp. We sit them down every hour and reward any pee pee or poo poo with a sticker. If they get 5 stickers on their card, then they get to choose a toy out of bin of dollar store type toys. To make it easier for everyone to see a successful potty, we place paper towels between the toilet seat and the toilet. It made it much easier to see even the smallest amount of pee. I even added a picture schedule for my son to show him how the steps go to use the toilet.

Both of them did really good by the end of the week and had earned 5 or 6 toys. We started out by using underpants with the plastic pants over them, but it didn't really make them come a tell me that they had to go. Now we are using pull ups because they are easier to clean up if there is an accident.

My daughter is still doing well and has started to tell us when she has to go. My son has regressed a little bit because our daycare can't give as much attention to potty training as he needs. We are still having success at home and just hope that consistency will win out. I'm tempted to quit at least 2 or 3 times a week, but I know it's harder for me than for them and stick with it. Good luck everyone.
 
GunnarsMommy
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Registered: 7/1/08

Re: 3 1/2 year old daughter has no interest

Jul 1, 2008 7:18 AM
I am very frustrated with the whole potty training thing. I have a three year old (+4months). He is not interested in using the potty at all. He will pee in it if I catch him needing too or if his daddy or I sit on the big potty while he is on his. He doesn't seem to feel that he needs to go to the potty. Not only am I frustrated with him not wanting to go, but I have the pressure from my family saying "why isn't he potty trained", "he needs to be potty trained", "you have 5 weeks to have him potty trained". I don't know what to do. I can prompt him and make him sit on the potty, but he doesnt do anything. He doesn't seem to care about rewards either. Stickers, suckers, cars they are great, but it doesnt matter to him if he gets them or not. HELP!!!
 
Mom of "I'm Busy " 3yr old
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Registered: 6/28/08

Re: 3 1/2 year old daughter has no interest

Jun 28, 2008 6:50 AM
I am in the same situation. My daughter wanted to start at 18 months, but then child 2 was born and child 1 wanted to wear diapers. Then she wanted to wear pull-ups, but just like she wears diapers. Once in a great while she will use the potty for either poop or pee (prompted and walked there). But, mostly she doesn't care how wet or gross her diaper is with pee or poo. She always says, "I'm busy playing mom." She's been wearing pull-ups for five months with absolutely no change since she started no matter what reward I offer to her, even a trip to the Disney Store to pick out someting. We even tried a potty piggy which counted out money. We are going to give up on teh pull-ups soon and just go to underwear with a plastic pant that can be worn over so she really feels the stuff in her pants.
 
Hannah's mom
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Registered: 6/27/08

3 1/2 year old daughter has no interest

Jun 27, 2008 6:47 PM
My daughter is 3 1/2 years old and is supposed to start preschool in 2 months. She has sat on the potty a handful of times. The last time she peed, put a sticker on her chart and was rewarded with a dvd (we had been trying for EVER to get her on the potty). We developed a system for her and now she wants nothing to do with it. We added it to her "chore" chart so she can put stickers on that chart also but she wants no part of it. Today before her bath, I told her to sit on the potty while the tub was filling. She threw a screaming fit and wanted a diaper. What am I going to do? I am so afraid she won't be ready for school. When we bring that up to her, she replies to find another child to take her place and she will stay home. I could cry I am so frusterated. Could someone please help me??? Thanks!