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4 year old will NOT potty train! HELP

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Last Post Jul 23, 2009 9:24 PM by: kandygirl
kandygirl
 
kandygirl
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Registered: 7/23/09

Re: 4 year old will NOT potty train! HELP

Jul 23, 2009 9:24 PM
I have a 4 and a half year old he full potty trained on pee but not pooping he poops in his underwear and the pull ups but as soon as i take him off the toilet he will poop i done everything i dont know what else to do please help im pulling my hair out he cant go to preschool till he is potty trained please help us
tiredofpoop
 
tiredofpoop
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Registered: 6/15/09

Re: 4 year old will NOT potty train! HELP

Jun 15, 2009 7:47 AM
I can so related to that. I have a 4 year old that will NOT poop in the toilet. I have tried everything, well almost everything I think. My son is seeing counselor over this potty stuff. Still poops in his pants. I get so mad grrrr. I have tried the training pottys, didn't work. Now he is telling me that he is afraid of falling in the toilet. So, his counselor gave me a great idea on how to deal with that, which is to take him to Home depot and let him stand in one of the display model. That way he see that he is to big to fall in the hole. I haven't been able to try this for he has been at his dads till tomorrow.I will let you know how that goes. I even tried making him wash out his own underwear. He didn't like that at all yet still poops in his pants!!!
bunnyhopper
 
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Registered: 2/8/09

Re: 4 year old will NOT potty train! HELP

Feb 8, 2009 8:29 PM
As silly as it sounds, have you tried giving your son a target? He's got the equipment, and if you don't mind letting him go from a standing position, throw a Cheerio or Froot Loop into the bowl and tell him to hit it. Training my nephews, that is what I did. And, they were trained really quickly after it became fun.

As for general training, I have had the most success training the kids by training myself. I set a timer to go off every fifteen minutes for the first two days, and usually that is all it takes- except when they are really involved in play. Then I have to remind them that nature's calls are answered in the bathroom. Also, with my most recent child (a four-year-old girl) we bought a toy telephone and she is only allowed to play with it when she is using the bathroom. She is much less resistant, and I know things are going well if I can hear her chattering when I'm out of the room.

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Edited by bunnyhopper at 02/08/2009 8:31 PM PST
twinstraining
 
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Registered: 1/10/09

Re: 4 year old will NOT potty train! HELP

Jan 11, 2009 11:25 AM
It sounds like there is a lot of stress. Somehow, the stress has to go. Consistency as well. You keep trying different things, how is the child to know what to expect? Stick with one tact. First, it has to be the child's idea to go. Maybe bring a potty trained friend or relative over, who doesn't mind your child watching him/her go. Have them for a sleep over a couple of nights or play date for an afternoon and evening. When your child sees the other going, see if his/her attitude changes any. Then try to go with the flow. Offer praise to the child who is trained. Offer a treat to the child who is trained when they go (and let your child watch). then your child will understand that those things are available to them, (of course you should mention this out loud and show where you might keep the treat, so your child can point if embarrassed). Make sure the potty is accessable, and they can get their clothes off in time (easy clothes), then praise every time they make the effort. Once the effort has begun, don't back track. Don't ever say anything negative about an accident, just say "you have to try to run to the potty a little sooner next time, so you can get your pp or poop in the potty, right? and then you will get your treat, too" Good luck
Momtorachel
 
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Registered: 1/3/09

Re: 4 year old will NOT potty train! HELP

Jan 3, 2009 8:04 AM
I have a 6-year-old with Down syndrome (girl) that will not go potty. It is SO frustrating. We, too, have tried almost every known program, etc. with no success. We even tried the Lora Jensen (3daypottytraining.com) method, who is called the "queen of potty training", and it did not work, either. My daughter screams, cries, and says "no" whenever we try to get her to go potty, or even take her to change her pullup. We literally have to drag her kicking and screaming to the potty. We have tried ignoring her, too, with no success. It doesn't bother her one bit to have a messy/wet pullup. Any advice would be appreciated!
Ryan's Mommy
 
Ryan's Mommy
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Registered: 12/27/08

Re: 4 year old will NOT potty train! HELP

Dec 27, 2008 9:02 PM
Hi,
I have the same problem with my 4-year old son. He goes crazy running around the home, but refusing to sit on the toilet or potty. I have tried anything, positive reinforcement, punishing, buying gifts, not letting him watch cartoon.... ANYTHING, I feel like I am going crazy myslef. I have been told to leave him alone, he will do it when he's ready, but I read about a 7-year-old boy who was left alone & still using diapers. Pleaaaaaase tell me that this nightmare will end some day soon.
jfredifer
 
jfredifer
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Registered: 8/2/08

Re: 4 year old will NOT potty train! HELP

Aug 2, 2008 7:59 PM
Have you tries to just not pay any attention to him? I was thinking that maybe if you just put him in underware and left him to his own devices then he might just go. It might be to the point where he knows it pushes your buttons and that is why he keeps it up. Just say uh-oh and have him help clean up the mess and give him no reaction good or bad.
Anyway, that's my thoughts... i hope it helps in some way
MommaTo4and2
 
MommaTo4and2
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Registered: 8/1/08

4 year old will NOT potty train! HELP

Aug 1, 2008 6:27 PM
Hey everyone,
We introduced potty training when my son was about three years old, a little earlier. At first he was ok, but never wanted to sit and would scream and cry. We'd still tell him good try, and left it alone for a bit. We've done everything the doctor has said to try, not pushing them, or mentioning it, using training pull ups that get cool when he pees, and no matter what we do, he will NOT go. He's now four, just turned four in April, and we can't get him to do it. We've done rewards, stickers, pennies in the piggy bank, new cheap toys, a new potty, and I'm out of ideas. I feel like a year from now it'll still be like this. I don't believe in punishing him for accidents either. His two year old sister will sit down and doesn't throw fits, but she doens't go that much. He'll hide if he pees, doesn't want us to change his diaper, will get very upset if we change a poopy diaper as well. We've spoken to the doctor and they give us the same handout about kids refusing to go. I've even sat him down and asked why he doesn't want to go, he says he's scared and I reassure him that it's okay to be scared but he won't tell me why he is scared. I'm so frustrated and I don't know what else to do with him. Please, any advice?