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SINGLE DAD NEEDS HELP!!!!

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Last Post Dec 28, 2007 12:10 PM by: threebeautifuldaughters
threebeautifuldaughters
 
threebeautifuldaughters
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Registered: 12/28/07

Re: SINGLE DAD NEEDS HELP!!!!

Dec 28, 2007 12:10 PM
Hi, i would suggest making an appointment with your pediatrician for BOTH you and your ex-wife. She needs to hear from a professional how much negative impact this could possibly have on your daughter. There are numerous issues that adults can have that have been linked to traumatic potty training.
You want to discuss everything in front of the pediatrician including your ex-wife's method of "potty training" which to me borders on abuse and neglect.
Second you want to find out if there are any physical reasons why your daughter is having problems potty training. Then you need to come up with a game plan that both you and your ex-wife will adhere to so there is consistency in the daily routine and potty training. This is vital for success in potty training for your daughter. You may even see a co-parenting counselor who can help with the relationship of you and your ex-wife and your daughter. You two will be a part of each other's lives forever through your daughter so there needs to be some peace made between you - or at least some civility.
As for some suggestions to get you and your daughter started - take her shopping and let her pick out "big girl" pretty underwear and get her a potty chair , something that is hers. Doesn't have to be fancy - the plainer the better. Then get some stickers that your daughter will love and spend some time throughout the day asking her if she wants to try her "big girl" underwear and potty chair. Let her sit on it and get used to it. When she does go potty in it let her pick a sticker and put it on her potty chair. After a while she will see all of her success in potty training by the number of stickers on the chair. When she has an accident - tell her its okay because everyone has accidents and perhaps ask her more often if she needs to go and tell her that as soon as she feels like she needs to go then to let you know. Positive reinforcement is the best tool i have ever found. Good Luck in this and i wish you all the success with your daughter.
Wendy
 
Wendy
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Registered: 4/20/07

Re: SINGLE DAD NEEDS HELP!!!!

Apr 20, 2007 10:13 AM
You may want to start off by telling your ex wife that if your daughter gets used to being wet or dirty, it will not bother her and therefor will not want to stay dry and be potty trained. My suggestion would be to let your daughter run around without a diaper on outside and when you see her go bring the potty to her or her to the potty. This worked for my 1 and a half year old son. However I am now having a hard time getting him to realize that he needs to use the potty when he is wearing a pull up too.
LEXI'S DADDY
 
LEXI'S DADDY
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Registered: 4/17/07

SINGLE DAD NEEDS HELP!!!!

Apr 17, 2007 8:12 PM
HELLO TO EVERYONE OUT THERE. I NEED ADVICE AS TO WHAT I SHOULD ABOUT MY DAUGHTER. I HAVE AN EX WIFE, RECENTLY DIVORCED, WHO FEELS THAT OUR 3 YEAR OLD NEEDS TO BE POTTY TRAINED IMMEDIATLY BECAUSE SHE STARTS CLINICALS IN 6 WEEKS. THERE IS NO IFS, ANDS, OR BUTS. OUR DAUGHTER HAS NEVER SHOWED ANY INTEREST YET TOWARD POTTY TRAINING. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING OFF THIS MESSAGE BOARD, AND SHE IS JUST NOT READY. I AM WILLING TO COME TO TERMS WITH THIS, BUT SHE IS STILL PUSHING. ITS TO THE POINT WHERE MY DAUGHTER IS NOW HAVING HORRIFIC DIAPER RASHES WHEN I PICK HER UP BECAUSE MY EX WIFE LETS HER SIT FOR PERIODS OF TIME IN WET OR DIRTY UNDERWEAR EVEN THOUGH MY DAUGHTER ASKS TO BE CHANGED. I KNOW THIS BECAUSE MY EX TOLD ME THIS IS HOW SHE POTTY TRAINS. SHE HAS NEVER HAD A RASH IN HER LIFE!!!!! KNOCK ON WOOD!!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO OR HOW SHOULD APPROACH THIS. ANY ADVICE WOULD BE GREAT!!!!