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HELP!!!

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Last Post Sep 17, 2008 7:51 AM by: Jen Singer
Jen Singer
Jen Singer
Posts: 73
From: New Jersey
Registered: 7/22/08

Re: HELP!!!

Sep 17, 2008 7:51 AM

The stubborn preschooler is not uncommon, so understand that you're not alone.

I suspect that you've gotten yourself into a Battle of the Wills - a battle that he will always win, because he's in control of his body.

First, make sure that he's not constipated. If that's the issue, he may be afraid to go potty for fear it will hurt. If so, consult his pediatrician.

Next, make sure there aren't any major issues going on in your home, like a new baby or a divorce, before moving forward. You might have to wait a little while for things to calm down before continuing training.

If not, though, it's time to turn over the responsibility of potty training to him.

Tell him he's a big boy now and that he's in charge of his own body and the potty. Tell him he will wear underpants from now on (though you can still use Pull-Ups at night for now. NIghttime training will come later.) Tell him that he is in charge of getting his poop and pee into the potty. If he doesn't get it there, he is in charge of cleaning it up. (You have to help him, of course. But do it matter-of-factly. Just clean it up and move on.)

Once the Battle of the Wills has been declared over, he will likely take more interest in training himself. But get rid of the rewards and the pressure. He has to want to do this on his own.

Good luck!

Jen Singer

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kaidensmom0105
 
kaidensmom0105
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Registered: 9/16/08

HELP!!!

Sep 16, 2008 11:49 PM
my 3.5 year old son refuses to potty train. we have bought pull-ups of many varieties, underwear and videos.
he is smart enough to know that if he is wearing underwear to ask for a diaper, if he does not get one asap...he pees or poops himself.
how do i stop him from thinking that everything is just like a diaper as he says?
also i have tried many different incentives...sticker charts, coins, special surprises all to know avail.
any suggestions would be greatly welcomed.