Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY in Forums in Pull-Ups® Forum

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Registered: 10/22/09

Re: Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY

Oct 22, 2009 1:47 PM


	Hi, I am having the same problem with my 4 year old. She has been trained to pee in the potty for over a year, bribery worked for this. She even pooped a few times in the potty. Then she stopped. She holds it in and then gets constipated. We give her MIralax everyday, apple juice with water. At the beginning of summer we kept her in her bathing suit all day and she finally pooped in the potty and continued to do so for a whole week. Then she stopped. She has been in underwear until recently and she just poops in it. At one point I told her she had to clean the mess herself and she did. I've tried bribery, treats, buying something special, and now charts, but nothing is working. I gave up and put her back in pull ups because it is just easier to clean up. When she has gone in the potty she is very happy and says she will continue to go. I have tried carrying her to the potty when she starts to poop in her pants and she screams and kicks. She turns 5 in August and will start kindergarten in September. Has anyone had this hard of a time training? What worked? Has your child eventually pooped in the potty? Help!!! Cindy

my angels3

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Registered: 10/7/09

Re: Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY

Oct 7, 2009 4:37 PM


	i'm having the same problem with my 2 1/2 year old daughter. she wears underwear when she gets home from daycare and on the weekends, otherwise she wears pull ups b/c we dont think shes ready for underwear all the time. she will pee in the toilet but refuses to go poo. it doesn't matter if she's in underwear or a pull up, she will poo in them. i have tried everything, even making her stay on the potty and she just fights me, but as soon as shes off, she goes in another room and poos. I need some help on how to get her to poo n the potty so i can get her in underwear full time. i have two older boys and they were never this hard to get to poo in the toilet.

*sam521*

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Registered: 8/15/09

Re: Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY

Aug 16, 2009 8:46 PM


	Stop buying pull-ups! Take away the one vice he feels he has to have and makes sure that he doesn't use the floor!

*sam521*

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Re: Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY

Aug 16, 2009 8:40 PM


	I am potty training my two year old son and I found that a pull-up confuses him with a diaper. My son where's underwear ever where except when he sleeps at night. There is a different feeling associated with underwear than with a diaper or pull-up and I think a child needs to feel the discomfort associated with underwear.

postpartum penny

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Registered: 8/10/09

Re: Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY

Aug 10, 2009 3:09 PM


	Ok I think my situation out does most of these... My 4 yr old son who is about to enter JK this Sept. was initally trained to use the potty at age 3...he would do pee but not poo...then major life changes occured....we moved to a new city with a bigger place ...i was prenant and had the baby before the move...and then he refused to even sit on the big toilet for the 1st 3 weeks.... he has a musical potty which he is way to tall to use now...and a potty seat ring for the big toilet which i had to bribe him to use...he was afraid to use it in the old house because it slipped off the toilet and he almost fell in butt first....i thought it was cute then but i am feeling the stress of this setback big time....i have less than 1 month to get him trained for the start of kindergarten!!!!!!!!!!!!!!HELP ME -- Serenity now.....madness later!

amanda98

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Registered: 8/1/09

Re: Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY

Aug 1, 2009 7:40 AM


	I have two girls the first is now four and she potty trained herself pretty much. It was such a breeze. But now my almost three year old is in training and it is so hard she flat refused when we started out. But now she is getting the hang of it. And it took her about a week and a half before she would poop in the potty. The way that I showed her was when she would have a accident in her pull up, i would take her pull up in the bathroom with us and put the poopy in the toilet and show her that poopy goes in the potty and she would wave and say bye-bye to it. And it has been working, she poops in the toilet and says bye and flushes! So try that.

Susani

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Registered: 8/1/09

Re: Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY

Aug 1, 2009 7:10 AM


	We are having the same problem with our second daughter, and I understand your frustration because I have it also. Its so hard not to compare children, but my first born was 2 1/2 when she was completely potty trained, did it herself. I assumed that little sister would want to be like big sister and go on the toilet, but so far, no such luck with the poos. Does show you that each child is different and he will go when he's ready. Anyway, here are some suggestions we have received for help with #2, some we've tried and some we haven't yet. 1. bribery. Worked great with our first daughter, and worked with the peeing part of daughter #2, but unfortunately no matter how many times we tell her that we'll buy her that princess bouncy castle we saw at Wal-mart if she poos in the toliet, she'll say she doesn't really want it and asks for her pull up. 2. keep them in the bathroom until they go. Haven't tried this with duaghter #2 because she's 3 1/2 so of course she can get on and off the toilet herself, but I think that the concept behind this is that you basically "break them in" by restraining them in the bathroom (close the door) and not let them out until they go poo. I've read that this should take about 1 week to accomplish. 3. tell them that mommy's (or daddy's, depending on who they favor) poo is in the toilet and wants to be with with your poo. Got this from a friend who, when she was given the advice, just about died at the seemingly stupidness of it, but her son was almost 4 and she was at her wits end and all the other advice from "experts" hadn't worked, so she tried it and , lo and behold, it worked. My daughter is a mama's girl so I tried it and, of course, no such luck. 4. make them a part of the process with cleanup. I don't have the whole story behind this one, but one of my oldest daughter's friends at preschool was holding it in and not going and she is about 4 1/2. She would wear underwear and have little accidents in it because, even though she would try really hard to hold it in, she couldn't always do it. So the parents started to make her help wash out her undies, etc. when she would have these accidents and it supposedly did the trick. Words of wisdom from the director of a preschool "don't stress out about potty training. I have yet to see a child enter kindergarden in diapers." I know it can be hard to follow, especially when they seem so close and you know that they can do it, but I think that if you stress out about it, the children will pick up on that and it won't help matters. Good luck !

akabeans

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Registered: 7/31/09

Re: Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY

Jul 31, 2009 8:08 PM


	we had the same problem with our first born son. Two things helped: #1 not worrying about it, realizing our son will take a while to potty train and eventually he will get it, and #2 finding a really comfortable child seat for the big potty (like baby bjorn) AND getting a stool he could rest his feet on when he was on the potty. The key was making him really comfy so that it wasn't so awkward to try and poop.

Mom of 3 little women

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Registered: 7/17/09

Re: Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY

Jul 17, 2009 7:12 AM


	I have three girls. The first was 4 when she finally stopped pooping in her undies. The second was 2 1/2 when she was wearing "big girl panties." Now, we have one that will be 2 in August, and she is almost completely potty trained. (Yes, she will go poop on potty.) BUT the key here is, ALL children are different and train at different ages. When he is ready, he will stop pooping in his pants. You can tell him that "Big boys don't go poop in their pants." That helps with our daughter (insert girl for boy) But really, they stop when they are ready.

crissy24

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Registered: 7/16/09

Re: Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY

Jul 16, 2009 3:11 AM


	I do not have a son, but when i was little, my mom could not get me to go poop on the toilet. so my father tried to give me some really nice when i did go. i think my mom said it was .50$ everything so i could learn to save money too. but tried to give them something that they may want like a cookie or something. good luck.

Ms3177345

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Registered: 7/8/09

Re: Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY

Jul 8, 2009 9:04 PM


	I wish I could find an answer for the same problem. Our son is 3 1/2 and does not have a problem going pee either. It is the BM that he will have nothing to do with. He runs to hide in either the corner or behind the chair to complete the task. Most often, with the trip to the bathroom he will walk on his tip toes with a shuffle. We have tried all that we can think of to encourage and praise him, but he continues to run and hide. We have tried reducing the amount of milk, high fiber foods, and even have tried Pedi-Lax, with no luck. Forgive me for this, but I am happy to see that this is not uncommon, as I was concerned that there is a medical reason that he is having trouble. Along with you, would like to find out how to help our little man with this. Hopefully someone can help us all.

grandma of 7

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Registered: 6/26/09

Re: Refusing to Poop on toilet. Help! I AM ABOUT TO CRY

Jun 26, 2009 8:16 AM


	We have similar problem but with a 4 year old! Wears underpants during day and will go pee by himself (standing) but refuses to poop on the toilet. Asks for a pull-up so he can poop! This was his response to our request he not have B.M. in big boys underwear. He use to go to a corner, behind a chair etc. to quietly poop which is how we knew he was going to/or was doing it. Explained we only pee and poop in the bathroom as no one wants to smell his poop. Now he asks for a pull-up and takes himself into the bathroom. He will move the rug away so that when we remove the pull-up nothing will fall or get on the rug. His 6 year old brother tries to encourage him and will say he is going/or just went and come watch, but nothing. When asked why he will not go on the toilet he has no real answer...not afraid etc. He wants us to put the poop from his pull-up into the toilet and either he or we will flush...no fear. And yes, we have made him sit on the toilet when he has asked for the pull-up but then he refuses to go. HELP!

trenee

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Registered: 6/24/09